i want a bagel w strawberry cream cheese rn „„, ??
oh my god ok sit the fuck down
i dont care about peoples’ personal preference. i’m part of the BDSM community. you think i’m going to shame BDSM, hilarious. no. i’m a masochist, and i know how it works. i know that sadists take care of the people they’re dominating, and i know that sadists ALWAYS have CONSENT to dominate them, and do so safely and with respect
our issue has nothing to do with “preference when it comes to sex” or “what people like in the bedroom”
this book glorifies and romanticizes STRAIGHT-UP ABUSE, not only in the actual sex but in the relationship itself
the BDSM community is about safe, sane, and consensual - 50 shades has NONE of those, and it’s an insult to call what’s in this book BDSM
it is actively promoting an abusive relationship, and it is teaching its readers and viewers that that’s an okay relationship to have when it is NOT in any way acceptable
not only that, but it’s also teaching those readers/viewers incorrect BDSM practices - what if somebody thinks they’re hot/safe/whatever practices and tries them? there’s SERIOUS injury and risk involved in the malpractice portrayed in these books
BDSM is awesome. abuse is not. do NOT tell me that they are equal.
the destiny beta is fucking great